My Twin Flame is with Someone Else, What Now?

Dear Grace,

I’ve been on the Twin Flame journey for a while, and it feels like I’ve learned so much. But something has been eating away at me. I’ve come to realize that my Twin Flame is with someone else, and I don’t know what to do with that.

I’ve heard that Twin Flames are meant to reunite, but seeing him with someone else feels like I’ve lost all hope of ever having a future with him. I’m confused and hurt. What do I do when my Twin Flame is with someone else? Does this mean I have to let go completely?

Tabi, London

Dear Tabi,

First off, I want to honor you for reaching out with such a vulnerable question. It’s not easy to face the reality of seeing your Twin Flame involved with someone else, especially when the heart longs for reunion. Your pain and confusion are valid, and I want you to know that you are not alone in this experience.

Here’s the core truth: just because your Twin Flame is physically with someone else, it doesn’t invalidate your connection, and it doesn’t mean that the journey toward union is over. In fact, this experience may be an integral part of the process, both for you and for your Twin Flame. Often, the journey towards union is not linear or simple. It can involve periods of separation, soul growth, and significant shifts in both individuals.

Let’s start by understanding that separation is a natural part of the Twin Flame journey, but it’s not a permanent state. You see, your Twin Flame is not just a reflection of you on the surface—they are a deep part of your soul’s path. This means that whatever you are experiencing, including feelings of hurt, frustration, and confusion, is part of the growth you are both going through. If your Twin Flame is with someone else, it’s important to recognize that there is likely karmic work they need to do, and so do you. These experiences are not about punishment; they are opportunities for both of you to heal, grow, and align with your divine purpose.

Here’s the important part: You can’t control or force another person’s journey, and trying to do so can lead to energetic stagnation and even more heartache. This is where the healing work comes in for you. Instead of focusing on what your Twin Flame is doing, I encourage you to shift your focus inward. What do you need to heal within yourself? What fears, insecurities, or attachments are being triggered by this situation? This work is essential because your personal healing and spiritual alignment are what ultimately prepare you for union.

I also want to remind you of the deep soul connection you have with your Twin Flame, even if they are with someone else right now. This bond transcends physical proximity, and when the time is right, the energetic pull between you will continue to guide both of you back to each other. Trust that the reunion is not based on the circumstances you see now but on the internal transformations that are taking place.

Tabi, you are not losing anything by focusing on your own growth. Rather, you are actively creating the space and energy for divine union to unfold in the most authentic and harmonious way. Sometimes, this means letting go of the attachment to how and when reunion will happen and trusting that divine timing will work in your favor. Healing yourself and aligning with your highest potential will not only benefit you but will also contribute to the reunion with your Twin Flame when both of you are truly ready.

Keep doing the inner work. Trust the process, even when it feels uncertain. You are more than capable of navigating this phase and creating a fulfilling, empowered life, regardless of where your Twin Flame currently stands.

With love and encouragement,

Grace